Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.English Proverb
What are some things you worry about?
Many of you worry about the outcome of a game.
You worry about making mistakes and losing a game.
Maybe you worry about getting that scholarship or experiencing disappointment.
Worry is an interesting emotion because the things that we worry about the most are based on the future or the past, both which we have no control over.
Is worrying ever useful?
I would offer a very strong no.
So why do we worry?
We mistakenly think that worrying about a certain thing will some how prevent the thing from happening, or prepare us better for if it does.
But that is a lie.
It does not empty tomorrow of sadness, but it robs today of joy.
The companions that accompany worry are fear, doubt, anxiety, and despair.
All of those feel terrible.
So, what is the solution?
Since worry is based in the future or past, the first step is bringing yourself back to the present. Notice how in this moment, everything is just as it should be.
Next, remind yourself that the feeling of worry is always caused by a thought you are thinking. What is it you are afraid of?
Again, worrying never actually prepares you to accept a negative outcome, it just makes it more likely the the undesirable outcome will actually happen.
Accept the possibility of the thing you are worried about. Make peace with the worst case scenario, and then make a plan for any outcome you can think of.
There is nothing you can’t handle.
You love a challenge.
Nothing has gone wrong.
The universe is conspiring in your favor.
Worry is never helpful and never necessary.
Don’t fall for it.