Better than happy

Climb the mountain. Not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air, and behold the view. Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.

David McCullough Jr.

Whenever I ask an athlete how they want to feel most of the time, the answer I get back more than any other is happy.

It sounds like a great goal, to just feel happy.

I then ask if all of the negative emotion could be taken away and they could only feel happy, would they want that?

Sometimes there is hesitation before they answer. No. Some negativity is necessary in order to learn they say. But most of the time they should be happy.

In reality, we would not know the positive without the negative.

Both are necessary. Equally necessary.

But for some reason we think something has gone terribly wrong whenever we are not happy.

I want to offer that there is a a feeling that is better than happy.

It is fulfillment. Achieving something you truly desire. Creating your masterpiece.

This is only possible when you embrace the discomfort. Lean into the pain. Into the suffering.

When you’re ready to feel terrible if it means getting closer to the person you are meant to become.

The other side of that discomfort is so much better than what you can even imagine.

Care more about the growth than about being comfortable and right and . . . happy.

It is the fulfilling of your destiny that is the feeling of being alive.

Go after your dreams. Embrace the failure, the success. All of it.

Because your life is one worth living. Enjoy it.

Don’t settle for being happy.

Chop Wood, Carry Water

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.

Napoleon Hill

Have you heard this phase before? Or perhaps read the book by Joshua Medcalf?

Phil Jackson said it often to his players. As a coach he won 11 NBA Championships.

But what does it mean?

Do you often want your goals to happen faster.

In a hurry.

Impatiently suffering through the boring, the monotonous, the grind.

When you feel something is difficult, you want to get out of it as quickly as possible. Thinking you will feel better and be better on the other side of the challenge.

But you miss the most valuable piece. The part where you love the process. Enjoy the challenge. Embrace it all.

You have your past self; the little girl who has always dreamed of doing the thing you are doing now, or even the version of you six months ago that wanted to play on the team you just finished playing for.

And you have your future self. The one who has won a state title, or secured a scholarship playing for the college of her dreams. The one who has done the thing you want right now.

You are always somewhere in between.

What if you actually loved that part the most?

Because being uncomfortable isn’t a choice, but where you experience it is.

Staying where you are is uncomfy, and so is growth.

Once you reach one goal, you will always want more. To get to the next level. The next version of yourself.

What if there was no hurry? If this place wasn’t a destination, but rather a guide? Pointing us in the direction we want to go, but knowing there is no final place. It doesn’t exist.

You are exactly where you are meant to be. Everything is exactly as it should be. The universe is conspiring in your favor.

Everything is an opportunity to learn and grow.

You don’t just want your dream. You want to be the person who built your dream. The one who overcame.

Learn to love the process of becoming great.

To love the struggle.

To love where you were and where you are going, but most of all, love where you are right now.

How good is good enough?

Doing your best is more important than being the best.

Zig Ziglar

“I didn’t do my best. I know I can do better.”

It sounds so innocent. Like it might be a useful thought to motivate you to improve.

But what it turns into is, “It’s my fault. I let my team down. I didn’t play good enough.”

What does it mean to do your best? Is it ever enough?

The truth is, as humans we can always do better. We have unlimited potential. This is a beautiful thing.

It is also true that our best changes from moment to moment.

That game you had where you scored 30 points? That was your best. What about that time you missed the free throw to win the game? That was also your best. In that moment.

How do we know? Because that is what happened.

Instead of measuring your best based on outcome, and comparing yourself to others or to a standard of your best in your mind, what if our best was determined by how we felt?

What if your best was actually a feeling, not a result or outcome?

Circumstances change. Your environment. Your opponent. Your mindset. Your best when you are 100% healthy is different than your best with an injury. As long as you are alive and a human, you will continue to make “mistakes” and there will be things you can’t control.

Instead of having a “never enough” mentality, what if you believed you always do your best? No matter what.

Of course you do. Believing anything else simply isn’t useful.

Your 4-Minute Mile

“It’s impossible” they said. “Can’t be done.” Experts said that the human body was incapable of running fast enough for long enough, to run a mile in under 4 minutes.

Until May 6, 1954.

Roger Bannister did the impossible and broke the 4 minute mile barrier in less than ideal conditions. He did it on a cold day, on a wet track, at a small meet, before a crowd of just a few thousand people.

Only 46 days after Bannister broke this record, another man also ran a mile under 4-minutes. Not long after, others followed. A feat that had been impossible for decades was now being accomplished by many.

So, how did he do it? How can we do things that have never been done? Believe in ourselves without evidence it will happen?

Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.

Tony Robbins

The answer? With our amazing brains. The human mind is the only thing that can defy all odds. That can dream up the impossible. That can create certainty, without any.

We were all born to create. Every single day. The most powerful thing we create is meaning. We are doing it all the time, whether we realize it or not.

What is your 4-minute mile?