Empowering beliefs

Just one empowering belief can completely change the quality and direction of your life.

Mateo Tabatabai

Beliefs affect everything you say and do, and ultimately how you feel.

Empowering beliefs are not a problem.

Unless you don’t have enough of them!

How do you find empowering beliefs?

Notice what you are focusing on when you feel in control of yourself.

You probably already have some empowering beliefs running in the background.

Ultimately, you get to decide what you want to believe so you truly can create any belief you want to have that feels empowering.

The catch is it has to be believable. If your mind doesn’t really believe it, then it will reinforce the opposite of that thought, which will most likely become a limiting belief.

One great way to find some empowering beliefs is to borrow ones you find from reading the work of your role models.

Another way is to find quotes you resonate with.

The most powerful words in the universe are the ones you say to yourself.

Karen Salmansohn

Thoughts such as:

“The more mistakes I make, the faster I learn.”
“What other people think of me is none of my business.”
“I am made for growth and connection.”

Beliefs are learned through constant reinforcement.

You must prime your mind to be open and accepting of new beliefs.

Start by gathering evidence for how the belief could be true.

Your mind is programmed to give you answers. You just need to ask the right questions.

Another method is proving how the opposite of the belief is not true.

How could not making mistakes be slowing your progress?
Do you ever really know what anyone is thinking?
Can you notice how the only things on this earth that aren’t growing are dying?

Decide what you want to believe, and go to work finding evidence for your empowering belief.

Show your mind all the ways your limiting belief isn’t actually true.

Practice constant reinforcement.

Design your beliefs on purpose. Live life on your own terms.

Progress is the key to happiness.

It can all start with just one empowering belief.

Believing it’s possible

What we can or cannot do, what we consider POSSIBLE or IMPOSSIBLE, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.

Anthony Robbins

It might be possible.

This desire or goal that you have. What if it were possible?

Possibility is believing you have the potential to do something.

Being able to access the feeling of possibility is essential for believing new things and reaching new goals.

This feeling of possibility has an element of curiosity and fascination.

A willingness to explore ideas without the pressure of being “right.”

Once you are aware you have a goal or desire to create something, moving into the possibility of achieving the thing is the next phase of belief.

If you are believing something could be possible, then your brain will help you find evidence to make a case for the thing.

This moves you to the next phase of belief, which is probability.

Not only is it probable, it is inevitable.

Practice accessing your imagination. That is the land of possibility.

Your mind was made to create things that are unrealistic and what you could argue as impossible.

It happens all of the time. Everything that we have was created by a human brain who believed it was impossible, and then possible.

Then the magic happened and the impossible thing became a real creation.

What do you want to create?

Be curious.

Nothing is impossible.

When you don’t see results

Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it.

Muhammad Ali

It starts with desire.

A burning, however big or small, to do something.

Shortly after, your brain might come up with all kinds of reasons why you can’t, or how the thing might seem impossible.

Being aware that you actually have an unfulfilled desire is huge.

Don’t discredit that.

You have desire for a reason.

Some part of you believes you can do the thing, or you wouldn’t have a desire to do it.

This is the very first stage of belief.

The only problem is when you stay here. When you stay in believing the thing is impossible.

How do you know if you are believing something is impossible?

One way is when you sabotage yourself.

When you find reasons for why things won’t work or why you can’t.

If you find yourself collecting evidence against yourself, you know you are here.

Another way to know is you are feeling like a martyr.

Believing you’ve tried all the things, done so much work, and have no results.

Maybe you get stuck in confusion.

You just don’t know how! If you had the info you needed, then you would have the results, you think.

The truth is, you won’t know the how until you do.

Unfortunately, that is how it goes. The how comes from doing and learning. You don’t get to know the how ahead of time.

None of those sound like you?

Maybe you are experiencing the fantasy land effect.

You don’t have the results from the goal you set, but everything is wonderful.

That is because you don’t actually believe you can get the goal, so you choose to focus on all the reasons why you don’t want or need it anyways.

Your brain is very good at creating what you are believing.

The good news is that being aware of your limiting beliefs is part of the process.

Noticing that they are there. Seeing how they are showing up.

Find the impossible thought.

Discover what you are believing.

That is the only way to change it.

Better than happy

Climb the mountain. Not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air, and behold the view. Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.

David McCullough Jr.

Whenever I ask an athlete how they want to feel most of the time, the answer I get back more than any other is happy.

It sounds like a great goal, to just feel happy.

I then ask if all of the negative emotion could be taken away and they could only feel happy, would they want that?

Sometimes there is hesitation before they answer. No. Some negativity is necessary in order to learn they say. But most of the time they should be happy.

In reality, we would not know the positive without the negative.

Both are necessary. Equally necessary.

But for some reason we think something has gone terribly wrong whenever we are not happy.

I want to offer that there is a a feeling that is better than happy.

It is fulfillment. Achieving something you truly desire. Creating your masterpiece.

This is only possible when you embrace the discomfort. Lean into the pain. Into the suffering.

When you’re ready to feel terrible if it means getting closer to the person you are meant to become.

The other side of that discomfort is so much better than what you can even imagine.

Care more about the growth than about being comfortable and right and . . . happy.

It is the fulfilling of your destiny that is the feeling of being alive.

Go after your dreams. Embrace the failure, the success. All of it.

Because your life is one worth living. Enjoy it.

Don’t settle for being happy.

Belief Bucket

You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.

Wayne Dyer

You all have a bucket.

As you grow up your opinions and views about life are shaped by many factors.

Your family, community, culture, church, school, neighbors, teachers, and several other sources shape your beliefs.

They offer ways of thinking that you allow into your belief bucket.

As children, you do not have the ability to determine what goes in your bucket. But as you get older, you can learn the ability to look into your belief bucket and see if you like what you find. Are your current beliefs useful or just weighing you down?

So, what is a belief?

A belief is usually a thought from the past that we have thought over and over again until we think it is true.

Your belief becomes so second nature, you don’t even realize it is there. Like water to a fish and air to a human. You might not notice it, but it affects everything you say, do, and feel.

Once a belief is established, your brain is programmed to search for evidence to prove this belief is true. It will even reject clear evidence against your belief.

For example, if you think Ram trucks are the best, you are going to find all kinds of reasons to support that belief. If you think Ford trucks are the best, you will do the same. But the truth is, it is a matter of opion.

Interestingly enough, most beliefs come from the past. If we are only believing things about the past, then we will be creating more of the past.

So, how do you believe something you don’t yet believe?

Beliefs about your future are based on what you want. What do you want to believe?

There has to be an element of faith when you want to believe new things. The opposite of faith is certainty.

To exercise faith, you must be uncertain. You have to be ok not knowing if the thought you are thinking is “true” or not.

Your brain isn’t going to like that.

So ask yourself questions.

How could the thing you want be possible?

What would you think if you did believe it?

Why do you want to believe this thought?

Your brain can’t help but find an answer.

What you search for you will find. What you focus on, you create more of.

You get to decide what to believe, and what is true for you.

Your beliefs are meant for you to follow, not for everyone else.

Decide what beliefs you want to keep in your bucket, and decide what you can let go of.

Don’t let your brain run on default.

Question all of it. Think deliberately.

Protect your bucket. Guard it carefully. Be selective of what you allow in.

What’s in your bucket?

Mistake Myths

Mistakes are part of being human. Appreciate your mistake for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.

Al Franken

Mistakes get a bad rap.

How many of you have been told to not make the same mistake twice?

That doing so is committing an unforgivable offense.

Once is ok, but twice? Unacceptable.

So you’ve been told.

Not only do you hate making mistakes, the worst is what comes after the act.

The blaming and the shaming, usually toward yourself but sometimes towards your teammates.

You have not only disappointed yourself, but you’ve also let your team down.

What does that even mean? You’ve heard it so much you just accept it as true.

What if it wasn’t possible to let anyone down, ever?

Whatever you focus on, you create more of.

So I’m giving you permission…

To dump these thoughts about mistakes. They are useless. Detrimental, even.

Do you ever really perform better when you think this way?

The most valuable thing you can make is a mistake — you can’t learn anything from being perfect.

Adam Osborne

I’d like to invite you to consider how all the things you think about mistakes could be myths.

Here’s what is true:

Mistakes are part of the process.

You can learn faster from a mistake than you can from success.

Mistakes are necessary.

If you aren’t making mistakes, you aren’t challenging yourself enough.

Mistakes are stepping stones to success.

Nothing has gone wrong.

Every mistake you make is progress.

You are closer now than ever before to becoming the person you want to be.

Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.

To believe anything else would be the greatest mistake of all.

Believe this and discover the difference.

Your life will never be the same.

Believing on purpose

We have a habit of distorting the facts until they become bearable for our own views.

Charlie Munger

What is a belief?

It is a conviction that something is true.

Where do beliefs come from?

For most of us, our beliefs are based on our past experience, and on what we have learned from other people in our lives either directly or indirectly.

Other people are great to learn from, but every person has their own set of beliefs. Beliefs are really a code for us to follow, not for other people in our lives.

When we believe something, we look for evidence to reinforce what we believe. We reject evidence that goes against our belief, and we even rationalize, ignore, or deny anything that doesn’t fit in with our belief.

The problem lies when our current beliefs limit us.

If we are using our past to determine what we believe, we will only create more of what we have already created. This could be a great thing in some areas of our life, and not in others.

Your brain will always want to keep on believing things you have always thought and believed. That is its default. Even when there is evidence of the contrary!

Our brains are programed to be right.

What we think are facts, are often judgements from the past.

How do you know if a belief is limiting you?

By how you feel. A negative feeling equals a negative belief.

So, how do we believe something that has not happened yet? How do we learn to believe new things?

It is a skill that must be developed.

If you believe that you choke under pressure, then you will discount the times you actually performed under pressure, search for all the ways you underperform, create unnecessary pressure for yourself, and end up creating more choking under pressure.

If you believe you are a mental athlete and are inconsistent, you will feel extremely uncomfortable when you are consistent and focused, and won’t be able to stay there long.

When your results are not aligned with your beliefs about yourself, you have two choices.

Bring your mind with you in your transformation by choosing to believe more useful thoughts, or go back to being a mental and inconsistent athlete, or whatever else it is you believe about yourself.

You get to decide what is true about you.

What do you want to believe?

What positive thinking is NOT

If you change the belief first, changing the action is easier.

Peter Mcwilliams

As an athlete, most of you believe in the power of positive thinking.

Especially when you are experiencing frustration or disappointment, I hear many of you say that you just need to think more positively.

What does this look like?

Many times it starts with making a mistake. A hitting error. Missing a shot when you’re wide open.

Choosing to think “It’s okay, I’ve got the next one” might work sometimes.

But your brain likes to offer back how it’s NOT okay. How you will probably mess up again. And let your team down. That if you lose, it will be your fault.

Positive thinking is NOT trying to override negative thoughts by ignoring them by thinking it is ok, when you don’t actually believe that making mistakes is ok.

So, what is real positive thinking?

The first step is acknowledging that you are a human, and will always make “mistakes” as long as you are playing sports in a way that challenges you. It is actually a beautiful thing.

The second step is to realize that whatever you focus on you create more of.

Focusing on a mistake by thinking directly about it or by trying to use a thought you don’t believe, will only create more frustration and disappointment.

Whenever you are competing, the best thoughts are no thoughts. No judgement. No opinion. Just noticing and responding. Trusting your training and staying in the present moment.

The zone where you aren’t stuck on the play you missed, or focused on what the score is or the possibility of losing. This is a skill that must be developed.

Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so is he.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

So if you must have thoughts, which you will, focus them to why you are doing what you’re doing.

Questions like, “What can I learn? What did I miss? How can I make this fun? What can I do right now to help my team?”

Thoughts such as, “Nothing has gone wrong. I always figure it out. This is fun. I always give my best effort. My team needs me now. I can make a difference. I am in control.”

How do you know if you are trying to “positive think” your way out of something?

By how you are feeling. How you feel will tell you what you are believing.

If you aren’t actually feeling positive, then you aren’t believing something positive. You are just thinking something that sounds positive, but isn’t. Be on to your brain.

True positive thinking is accepting you are human, and that you have strengths and weaknesses. It is choosing to focus on your strengths more than your weaknesses. To have compassion for yourself.

You are perfectly imperfect my friend. Embrace it and live into your full potential!

How good is good enough?

Doing your best is more important than being the best.

Zig Ziglar

“I didn’t do my best. I know I can do better.”

It sounds so innocent. Like it might be a useful thought to motivate you to improve.

But what it turns into is, “It’s my fault. I let my team down. I didn’t play good enough.”

What does it mean to do your best? Is it ever enough?

The truth is, as humans we can always do better. We have unlimited potential. This is a beautiful thing.

It is also true that our best changes from moment to moment.

That game you had where you scored 30 points? That was your best. What about that time you missed the free throw to win the game? That was also your best. In that moment.

How do we know? Because that is what happened.

Instead of measuring your best based on outcome, and comparing yourself to others or to a standard of your best in your mind, what if our best was determined by how we felt?

What if your best was actually a feeling, not a result or outcome?

Circumstances change. Your environment. Your opponent. Your mindset. Your best when you are 100% healthy is different than your best with an injury. As long as you are alive and a human, you will continue to make “mistakes” and there will be things you can’t control.

Instead of having a “never enough” mentality, what if you believed you always do your best? No matter what.

Of course you do. Believing anything else simply isn’t useful.

Your 4-Minute Mile

“It’s impossible” they said. “Can’t be done.” Experts said that the human body was incapable of running fast enough for long enough, to run a mile in under 4 minutes.

Until May 6, 1954.

Roger Bannister did the impossible and broke the 4 minute mile barrier in less than ideal conditions. He did it on a cold day, on a wet track, at a small meet, before a crowd of just a few thousand people.

Only 46 days after Bannister broke this record, another man also ran a mile under 4-minutes. Not long after, others followed. A feat that had been impossible for decades was now being accomplished by many.

So, how did he do it? How can we do things that have never been done? Believe in ourselves without evidence it will happen?

Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.

Tony Robbins

The answer? With our amazing brains. The human mind is the only thing that can defy all odds. That can dream up the impossible. That can create certainty, without any.

We were all born to create. Every single day. The most powerful thing we create is meaning. We are doing it all the time, whether we realize it or not.

What is your 4-minute mile?